Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.
Question:
how can i get a girlfriend. please help, i will give many points.? ok basically im 15 almost 16 and i have never had a girl friend. i am very shy at school i actually hardly ever talk and it is very hard to change that once people think of you in a certain way, but i am changing slowly. i am actually reasonably handsome. not fat. out of school i have literally about 3 good friends and thats it. i go to a music club and i feel quite confident there. i actually think that some of the girls in years bellow me might fancy me because they dont know my personality, but i really dont know. im very shy.
firstly, is there somthing wrong with me and secondly how can i get a girlfriend. i will really appreciate this. so thanks.
My answer:
First of all, there is nothing wrong with you. For many reasons of your past (religion, parents, social surrounding), you have become shy. I was in the same situation as you are (very young and handsome).
I won’t go into reasons of psychology as to why you got shy (not confident). There are so many that it could go on for days.
You need to start being proactive about your situation. Talk to more people for the start, any people! Join any sports or other hobbies which will force you to interact with others. Stretch you zone of comfort. Do things that are scary and risky.
Do a little every day, and in a few years you will inevitably change. JUST DON’T MAKE THIS MISTAKE THAT I DID: don’t sit there and do nothing because you think it will just go away. It won’t go away, it will get worse. I went the wrong path and lost years.
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Confidence is the key and it seems you know this. You need to start building up your confidence. Get out and start to talk to people. Go out and set a goal of saying ‘hello’ to 100 complete strangers in a week. This will work wonders for building your confidence up.
theres ntn wrong with u really… i mean to get a girl u should first tlk to a girl u like as in friends….
firstly have you got friends that are girls?if not try make some, it will be alot easier for you if girls can get to know you the real you,to have a laugh with a girl or have something ih common will start the ball rolling. good luck. as there is someone out there for everyone.x
Well, to be honest, you seem to be my boy version.
First of all you really need to build some confidence! I did mine (kinda… still working on it!) with telling myself just this simple sentence: ”You’re going to wake up tomorrow and feel more confident about yourself.” It wasn’t easy at first, but I ignored all the stuff that could make myself feel down, so it helped me
Secondly, when you’re done with the first part, or at least trying to built some confidence, since you feel confident while making some music how about make a band? Guys in bands gets attraction by girls. Or go to a drama club. Since you’re pretty shy, that might actually open you up. And also, you might meet with new people.
I know you can do it!