Tutorial: How To Approach

So you want to start approaching women huh? You want to learn how to approach women, and you're now wondering if it can be done? I'm here to show you how to do it! This is my quick 101 tutorial on approaching women, that works anywhere, any time, for any guy.

A fair warning first...


I'm about to tell you something most dating authors will not admit up front. Women are always a numbers game. Even those guys who make millions teaching pick up, can only get 1 in random 50 girls they approach.

Why? Because the truth is, if a woman doesn't want you to approach her, there's very little you can do to make her attracted. Those guys who claim you can "build attraction"? All that is, is that they get a girl who sees you as a "maybe" to see you as a "yes".

You can't get from a girl's "no" category to her "yes" category. This is why I (and most successful playas) prefer filtering women before we approach them. We only approach women who are in the maybe or the yes category. This is where step number 1 comes from.

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Step 1) Flirt from a distance
- What you do, when you spot that cute girl you're thinking about approaching, is you test the waters first. One thing you can do, is to simply glance her way, while having a super huge smile on your face. Wait until she glances your way.

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Step 2) Assess her interest-
If she responds with a smile (most won't, even if they like you)... But if she responds with a smile, you're in, go in there and say anything, everything will work on her.

If she however responds by blushing, turning her eyes away - note, this is not a rejection. Most girls are shy. Glance a few more times, and notice how she responds. If she responds by occasionally glancing back too, she's most likely interested and wants to be approached.

If she however adapts a defensive body-language in response to your glances, she's not interested, don't do it. If she does everything she can to avert your gaze, she's either saying "don't even think about approaching" or she's extremely socially anxious. You don't want to approach in either case.

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Step 3) Approach-
Walk up to her, still holding a huge grin on your face, and say something like... "Hey, I've noticed you around, and I find you attractive. Hi, I'm Bob." Its that simple! But again, for it work, you have to follow steps number 1 and step number 2.


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Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.

Question:

White men: how do you feel when black women approach you? Are you surprised by it? Does it amuse you? I notice that there are not many black female-white male unions.

How do you usually respond to it?

My answer:

Well, they don’t approach a whole lot of us. I guess we might feel that she wants us for our money. Unfortunately, in our society, it’s much more okay for black men to be dating white women than vice versa.

I like black women, so I wouldn’t complain if they approached me. That also depends if you are attracted to black women. Don’t buy into society’s prejudice. If you like black women, than go ahead.

If a black woman approaches me, I’ll consider it a compliment and act accordingly. I want to distance myself from all the black gangster rappers with my manners, along with the white rednecks.

So, polite is the way. You can also tease them a bit, be a little dominant, and be generally playful with them, verbally and physically.

But really dude there's no reason you should be confused about any of this. If you haven't taken the quiz to see how you stack up with women yet... Click here and see what your results are on the personal dating quiz.

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