Question:

Guys, do you actually believe these articles on how to attract women? I think they are a bunch of BS. I’ve tried some of their tactics, as well as some provided by therapists and none of them work. I’m in my 40′s and still getting the same kind of treatment from females I got in elementary school.

My answer:

Okay, I see you have a real problem here and I will give you somewhat of a different solution. I presume you are getting bad treatment from women like you said up there. They are probably taking advantage of you, treating you like a doormat, seeing you only as a friend, and not having sex with you. In other words, you probably feel that you have no power with women.

These articles that you mentioned will not cure you, as they are just small guidelines. The more cool you are the easier you will put them into practice and have success. Plus, most of those articles are intended for men in their teens or 20s.

I will recommend that you seriously check out David DeAngelo. He has many products, but you don’t need most of them. To understand the whole dating thing and how women work in so much depth, get only the Advanced Series DVD’s. That’s really all you need. I got that one myself and it’s an alphabet for dating. It made me finally understand how attraction really works. Plus, David is a mature guys in his 30s and his material is really objective and mature, very much suitable for you.

P.S. I never bought any dating products except his. Most of them are really BS.

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Question:

How to attract women and keep them coming? There is this girl that says she into me. when i was that into her she was all over me she never stop texting me. I asked her out on a date and now she has been playing hard to get. My friends say that its because im nice and to available should i stop being sweet and just start being the on night stand guy. i am so confused how do i get her on the first date.

My answer:

Well, your friends were very right. This is unfortunately a common thing with men.

You started out by being cool and interesting and not caring too much, but after she showed interest, you turned out to be a little bit needy and predictable.

Look, just do what got her attracted to you in the first place. Don’t stop doing it just because it works. You saw that a change in your behavior made her cool off. So, continue being that interesting hard-to-get guys and she will pursue you again.

But when that happens, don’t turn into Mr. “I am all in love with you now.” That will turn her off.

Remember, keeping a woman is harder than attracting her.

Men are always finding out new ways to attract beautiful women. If only we could have one universal answer that says how to attract any women anywhere. But this is not going to happen anytime soon. Until that day I will share 3 very simple ways for attracting women.

Of course your first impression is most important part of any relationship. So your initial approach to a woman must be good for her to feel attraction for you. Of course there is no universal approach, your every approach must catered for the specific woman you are approaching. You can not approach in the same manner a gorgeous woman and a cute girl. Women who look better get more attention that women who don’t look that good. Keep that in mind when approaching.

So when you approach a gorgeous girl you must act like you are not impressed with her looks. It must look that you are not interested in her looks. (Ha-ha, but you actually are, you sleazy dog.) When you approach girl with ordinary looks then you should compliment her and her looks because she does not get that so often.

The other great thing you can do is to surround yourself with many lady friends. When other women see that they automatically look at you better, that is a great little glitch. They biology is thinking that all these women are your girlfriends, even if you are just friends.

And finally be a great man. That does not mean be a macho jerk. A true man is not like that. Just know where are you going and what do you want. Have a sense of purpose and direction, woman can smell that instantly in a man. When you know your purpose then you have confidence, and when you have confidence – then you have women.

Become an adventure for woman, become a man any woman would love to have as a lover.

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Question:

How do I get a black girlfriend? Im a child of the confederacy, redneck, hillbilly, whatever you wanna call me. I drive a big ass mud truck, 4×4, loud dual exhaust, 8” lift, 40″ tires, and 4 12″ subs under the back seat. Iv been told i got one of the most southern accents anyone has ever heard and the farthest north iv ever been is gatlinburg tennessee. but ever since i was about 15 years old i have been extremely sexually attracted to black women. i dont know why. one of my friends (black girl) said i had a case of “jungle fever” <— whatever that means. anyways… i want to get with a black girl. any advice?

My answer:

Well, just as you are attracted to black women, there are many black women who are attracted to white men like you. In fact, many black women have a fantasy of getting it on with a white man like you. This is because this is something that the black society would not approve of. In turn, this is what turns many of them on.

I assume that there are black women in your area. If there are not, you definitely need to go to an area where there are black women.

I want to ask you, are you generally successful with women? If you can get a white girlfriend or a girlfriend of any race relatively easy, than you won’t have much problems with getting a black girlfriend.

The only thing you have going against you as a white man is the fact that in our society, it is more acceptable for a black men to be with a white woman than vice-versa.

The most important advice for you to take is this: When interacting with a black woman, don’t act like it’s a big thing, like it is different. If you act with her like you act with a white girl, then there won’t be any problems. It all comes down to your attitude of being cool with it.

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Question:

White men: how do you feel when black women approach you? Are you surprised by it? Does it amuse you? I notice that there are not many black female-white male unions.

How do you usually respond to it?

My answer:

Well, they don’t approach a whole lot of us. I guess we might feel that she wants us for our money. Unfortunately, in our society, it’s much more okay for black men to be dating white women than vice versa.

I like black women, so I wouldn’t complain if they approached me. That also depends if you are attracted to black women. Don’t buy into society’s prejudice. If you like black women, than go ahead.

If a black woman approaches me, I’ll consider it a compliment and act accordingly. I want to distance myself from all the black gangster rappers with my manners, along with the white rednecks.

So, polite is the way. You can also tease them a bit, be a little dominant, and be generally playful with them, verbally and physically.

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Question:

How can i flirt???????? I HAVE 0 FLIRTING SKILLS WHATSOEVER! How the hell am i suppose to flirt o_o! Like hay babe can i get dem digits?
I’m straight D:!

My answer:

Well, flirting is not what you see in movies definitely. Flirting basically means being playful with a woman and getting in her bubble.

You can’t be flirting with her if you’re not in her bubble. To be in her bubble means to cross that official meeting part with her. Let’s say you walk into a bank and the woman working there asks you “Hello, how can I help you?”. Imagine that instead of the official “Well, I would like this account to be…” you said “No, how can I help YOU!” with a playful and seductive tone of voice and facial expression.

That’s a perfect example of flirting. She’ll most likely respond in the same playful way. If you don’t do this naturally, it will take time to develop it, but it’s worth it.

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Question:

how can i get a girlfriend. please help, i will give many points.? ok basically im 15 almost 16 and i have never had a girl friend. i am very shy at school i actually hardly ever talk and it is very hard to change that once people think of you in a certain way, but i am changing slowly. i am actually reasonably handsome. not fat. out of school i have literally about 3 good friends and thats it. i go to a music club and i feel quite confident there. i actually think that some of the girls in years bellow me might fancy me because they dont know my personality, but i really dont know. im very shy.

firstly, is there somthing wrong with me and secondly how can i get a girlfriend. i will really appreciate this. so thanks.

My answer:

First of all, there is nothing wrong with you. For many reasons of your past (religion, parents, social surrounding), you have become shy. I was in the same situation as you are (very young and handsome).

I won’t go into reasons of psychology as to why you got shy (not confident). There are so many that it could go on for days.

You need to start being proactive about your situation. Talk to more people for the start, any people! Join any sports or other hobbies which will force you to interact with others. Stretch you zone of comfort. Do things that are scary and risky.

Do a little every day, and in a few years you will inevitably change. JUST DON’T MAKE THIS MISTAKE THAT I DID: don’t sit there and do nothing because you think it will just go away. It won’t go away, it will get worse. I went the wrong path and lost years.

Guys do all kind of fancy tricks in hope that they will attract a girl they like. The problem with that is that these guys forget about the essentials. For instance  they forgot that women will react much more deeply to a funny joke than to some magic trickery. There is one issue with funny guys – they are funny by themselves and then the guys who are not funny try to emulate them and they look goofy. So, there is an important difference between funny and goofy. Be funny and don’t be goofy.

As we all know laughter is addictive and it’s addictive for a woman to have a guy that can make her laugh. The best way to learn humor is to read about it. Read about stand up humor, go to stand up comedy school and learn the skills. Being funny is a skill that you can learn. Why miss that opportunity. Funny guys always have women around them. And humor by itself is attractive, you show that you don’t care and live your life freely.

Don’t get me wrong humor is good and it will get you going. But in one point of the conversation you will have to stop cracking jokes and actually connect with the woman you are talking to. The art of making great conversation is essential skill of any attractive guys. If you are shy and don’t know how to express yourself – better start to learn doing that. Nobody likes shy weaklings – especially attractive women. When you learn to communicate your ideas the right way your whole life will go up to a new level, not just the women thing. Learn how to talk because of yourself, not because of women.

Start working on these ideas and experience the great benefits these ideas offer.

Very often you will see attractive women in groups. Usually there are a couple of attractive women together in a bar or in some other place. Many guys have many limiting beliefs considering meeting a woman who is with her friends. Usually most of the guys just quit when they see a woman in this situation. It is crucial to understand that guys don’ approach women with friends because they think it’s just too difficult or they think they won’t succeed..

I think that all guys should learn that approaching women who is with her friends is actually simple and easy. The first thing you should have is a simple line to start a conversation and then you are to go.

The 3 simple steps to approach a woman surrounded with friends are:

The first thing you should do is to walk over to her and ask a simple question. The question should evoke a positive response and keep the conversation interesting and light-hearted. You could ask a question about fashion, celebrities or some social drama.

Another thing you should keep an eye on is your level of relaxation. Just look relaxed and comfortable. If you are comfortable with the situation they will be too. Try to get her and her friends seated down somewhere with you. After a bit of conversation you should ask the girl for her number. Invite all of the girls in the group to join you at a party or some other social gathering. By doing this the other girls will feel loved by you.

Actually approaching groups of women is much easier than approaching a girl that is by herself. Women know that is much more difficult for a guys to approach a group and by knowing that they will value your effort more.

Because they feel protected girls in groups are more inclined to conversation. If you approach a single girl and ask her a question you could get an answer or you could get nothing. But if you approach a group one of the girls will definitely answer you, and by doing this you are in the conversation.

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If you have problems with the whole woman thing. If you don’t know how to attract and keep them then you are in some serious problems. The good news is that attracting and keeping women is a skill, and a skill is something you can learn. That’s a great thing. Maybe now women are not noticing you so much or they loose their interest in you very quickly – no problem. You can change all that. All it takes is a little bit of effort and time. Yes time, it won’t happen instantaneously.

Men are light years ahead of women in the ability to improve their attractiveness, women are stuck with their physical appearance forever, and it only deteriorates with them. But men – they have all life to improve their qualities, and their qualities grow and expand through time. Isn’t that a great thing for men, for you?

Men always do the complete opposite of what they actually should do. They try to impress women all the time with talking about their great accomplishments or their big wallet.  It’s great to be impressive by the virtue of being yourself, but it’s dead wrong to try to impress women. When you try to do something that automatically says that you are not that what you are trying to be. Do you get me?

I have seen countless men asking themselves why women don’t like them. And all these men have one thing in common – they did not have any masculine alpha traits. No wonder women don’t like them. Real men are confident, masculine and funny but not goof. They have excellent social intelligence and are always dressed up and stylish. Just try to fake some of these qualities in front of women – they will instantly react better to you.

Try some of these tips and see how they work for you.